Update. I'm doing surprisingly well. I know there will be ups and downs, but a couple of weeks ago (after two months of getting no indication that reconciliation was even a consideration; whatever there was, it was just mind reading) I really started detaching. GALing and 180 have been good for awhile. I stopped following W on social media, and I have minimal contact with W. I realize that I'll be alright without W. I still have the girls, a great job, great family and friends, etc. I've made so many positive changes (weight is at college weight, volunteering a lot, hanging out with family and friends more) that I'm focused on making the changes permanent. Divorce agreement is almost finalized (I think it's fair to both of us, including child custody). It will be filed the week before Thanksgiving. I've always been pretty resilient and comfortable in my own skin. There are a lot of unknowns (mostly regarding future relationships), but I'm trying to focus on the moment.
