Feeling lost, scared and wanting to fix this. Pt 2

[Turbine]

Thank you DejaVu6. I want to say that and so much more.

However, this morning I am at 180 from that. When she left Friday night she didn't say when she would be back. She didn't return last night.

Is she safe? IDK. On my way to work my mood was: Pack your stuff and get out. All of your stuff. BTW this would be a moving van alone.

Do I really want that? Probably not and just feeling hurt and unloved by the most important person in my life.

Turbine, you are reacting on emotions based on your expectations. This will NOT get you where you want to be.

Take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

1) Is kicking her out getting me closer or further away from where I want to be?
2) If I am this hurt and feeling unloved, then am I detached the way I should be?
3) What GAL activities did I engage in this weekend as to not sit and dwell on where she was, what she was doing, etc?
4) Do I really know what a 180 is since your use of the term in the quote above suggests that I do not.

Turbine, one thing to remember with DBing: Giving up and letting things progress (kicking her out, filing for divorce, moving on with someone new) is always an option, but it is taking the easy way out. DBing is always the harder of the two options. But that is because it is the most desirable of the two options.

So, after you ask questions 1-4, ask yourself. In a year, 2, 5, 10, 20 from now, do you want to look back and say you took the easy way out?

I know this was reacting from emotions.I wrote this out of frustration.
Kicking her out would not bring me closer to desired goal. Emotional side getting out in front..
Detached... not even close. I look at what I saw with my parents. Yes they had issues. They also were married 52 years.
GAL was hanging with friends Sat and Sunday. Church Sunday AM. Need more . Still time in my head at home.
Talking about 180, I was unclear in writing that it was my feelings this morning about this sitch. . Not the 180 in DB.

In no way do I want to not say I exhausted every avenue. Even the ones that I didn't know about before reading DB/DR.

So is a coach worth it?