BM, here is the thing. Everything you state in your response......isn't going to be accomplished through text messaging her! You have to show her.

You say "I don't want to control her. I want her to give me a break. I don't want her to keep trying to lead me on anymore, I don't want her to find random things to be angry about just to have something to blame me for...I'm exhausted mentally and emotionally." But that again is focusing on trying to fix and change her.

So what are you going to do to show her "I'm not her pawn. I'm not the second choice."? What are you going to do to show her that "And I'm no longer part of her game plan."??

And then back to focusing on her behavior: " don't want to R right now, to be honest. I just want a break. I want peace. I want to stop being used, lied to, manipulated, blamed, and slandered."

She is going to keep trying to use you. And to lie to you. And to manipulate you. And to blame you. And to slander you. There is NOTHING you can do to get her to stop those things!! So how are you going to SHOW her you won't put up with it anymore?

Let's focus on BM, the ONE thing you can control. Personally I do not think you will be able to move on properly working at the same company as her. So are you looking for a new job? That is something within your control! What about moving the D forward? So far a lot of talk and a lot of excuses. ("I can't afford a lawyer." "I don't know where the forms are." Stop making excuses and DO IT.

"S changed his questions. He's no longer asking "why do I have two houses". The other night he asked "why doesn't mommy want to live with you?" Last night, it was "why doesn't mommy like you anymore?""

Okay, so how are you handling those questions? Are you keeping the answers focused on him? "We both love you very much!" "We are both going to be there for you no matter what!" Etc?

"I'm not trying to push her away. She ran. I'm trying to walk away with some dignity."

GREAT! So what is your plan for keeping you dignity?

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018