Familiar path, new approach (pain18 DB VII)

[ovrrnbw]

Pain,

W is sniffing. You not answering and being fully available has her chasing. Now, I'd be even less available. Don't turn down lunch invitations from a friend! (Unless maybe you had a reason to, which I don't know).

I'd put that phone down when you are out and about and live in the moment. And if W calls, oh well. You're living in the moment. You moved back in to YOUR bedroom and kicked the cheater out. She clearly is trying to get her hooks back in you, and nobody knows what the reason for that is. So don't assume it's because she wants R. But don't let her get her hooks back in you. Keep detaching. It seems like less communication is helping you do that. So quit feeling bad for her. She isn't going to have you there 24/7 if you guys get divorced. So let her deal with the consequence of her choosing this path.

Good job man!