DejaVu...the D was supposed to already be over with, but she decided to dismiss it because she gave me custody...willingly...and then decided that's not what she wanted. I would recommend reading some of the back story...this started in February, and she's been absolutely off since.

The reason OM matters is because he's part of the reason she agreed that I should have custody. He raises (illegally) dangerous animals, and W had been letting S stay overnight at his place in violation of court orders saying she couldn't do that.

I did the acceptance, love, peace, etc. She would take that as license to do whatever she wanted. So now I'm sending the message that I will not be her emotional slave. THIS is my 180. And honestly, it works far better to stand up than to be passive in my sitch.

W is actually exhibiting some pretty bizarre behavior since leaving. There isn't one OM, there have been MULTIPLE since Feb (at least 4 confirmed, but she does say there have been more, also OW).

She's gone off the deep end, ignored court orders, slandered me, and used S as a weapon. And now that he's with me...it's no longer a case of "broken-hearted ex"...it's "p*ssed off dad". Things are very, very different than they were months ago.

It's not that I don't love her. It's not that I don't want her to come to her senses. It's that I'm a dad first, and I WILL do whatever it takes to make sure S isn't screwed up for life, even if that means being harsh when needed with W. She's no longer a partner dealing with some issues, she's more like the threat to S's wellbeing at this point.

Last edited by blakmac; 10/29/18 04:34 PM. Reason: Forgot something.