Journey Continues #2

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Here's the thing ballast, you don't have to decide any of this now. You don't have to decide to give up on relationships, you can just "live" and see what happens along the way. If you're happy then keep doing what you're doing. If something is missing, then make a change.

I wouldn't get hung up on the "80% of divorces initiated by women" thing (and I think its 70%). Stereotypically men are more likely to hang in and tolerate a bad relationship than women are, so the fact that women pull the trigger more frequently doesn't really mean anything. If you have two unhappy people who cares who leaves first?

You also don't ever have to buy a ring again -- you can have a lifelong relationship and not get married, that's a fine choice.

I think the key question to understand is why you have chosen the partners you've chosen? What did they mean to you? What were they bringing to the relationship that you needed?

If you had to work hard for your parents' approval, people tend to chose partners that make them also work hard for approval. Those tend not to be really healthy relationships, so what do you need to do to feel satisfied with a partner who does NOT make you work hard for their approval? (I'm not saying this is your case, only an example)

There is "some dynamic" going on that hasn't worked for you twice, but this is much more about why you're choosing who you're choosing than really anything to do with them, or worse yet a generalization about "all women".

When you figure yourself out to that degree, then you'll have a path to a healthy relationship you can feel confident in if you decide you want one. If you don't do the work and figure it out, then yes, there's a decent chance the pattern will continue to repeat. It's not easy.

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