As far as the W, don't tell her what you're doing other than you'll be away for a few days. If you guys were divorced, like she says she wants, would you tell her everything you do and everywhere you go? So let her wonder, because her not getting to know about you is a consequence of her decision.
And this trip should be a trip for you to do something you want to do. If you have the attitude of "I want to make her miss me" then that attitude is going to come through. So recheck your agenda there
I'd stop looking at what she's doing on social media, and stop bringing it up. She's going to figure out that you're stalking her and it's going to make you look crazy. So go do something else.
Detaching doesn't need to be cold. You should be upbeat around her, but don't go overboard. Dress well, put on cologne, and put your best foot forward. When she speaks, respond casually and warm (if you normally treat people warmly). But don't "over-engage". Keep it brief. You pulling away does not invite an affair. If she is going to do that she is going to do that and she cannot blame her actions on you. She's an adult.
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PS - While at the beach, my buddy decided now that I am separated, it would be a good time to fulfill his wife's fantasy of having 2 men at once. They invited me into their bedroom Friday night after some drinks. I declined. Wondering if I should have ... Her breakfast was awesome though!
Please remember that you are married. If you want your wife to honor her vows you should honor yours. Remember that whole "lighthouse" thing you posted about?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
