It's not about right or wrong Turbine, It's about not chasing after someone who doesn't want you. You chasing after them isn't going to do anything. Ok, maybe there's a tiny chance, but most likely you just come off looking needy and weak.
And not pursuing doesn't mean you ignore her, you just stop the pursuit and stop the pressure. Your mind can reason through this, but you are in a tough emotional spot. I've been there. Go read my old threads. If you click on my user name it will show you my posts. Then go back to the very first one. I was probably "worse" than you.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.