I am pretty good at the business email. I took the same route as you think your H will take with my correspondence with H when he moved out. When I am feeling hurt I go to what I know. It is self preservation.
Dear H,
I hope you are enjoying your holiday. I wish to bring to your attention to ... blah blah blah
Kind regards, FS
Looking back, I was such a [censored]
If you are looking for signs of regret then you wont see any. H cried when he was away (he was away a lot because if his job). He told his sister that I was all he thought about. It just went round and round in his head and he couldnt shut it off. But he hid this from me. All he said at the time was he didnt know why he felt the way he did and it would be so much easier if he was seeing someone ... because it would be a tangible reason to leave.
... which brings me to your sitch ...
Your H has a tangible reason. Your H has OW. You say she was a client? So, your H gets to live out his knight in shining armour fantasy. He doesnt have time for regrets. He can see his happy ever after. Its in his grasp. If only his wife of 30 years wasnt in the way. But life is not a fairy tale. He will learn this when the shine comes off, when real life begins. I know its [censored], but if you are looking for regrets right now, you wont find them.They'll come but I have a feeling that you will be far too happy living your life to care.
You are an incredibly strong, articulate woman who is worth ten knights in shining armour. Time to remember who you are.
