I have had a read through the validation techniques but I'm pretty sure they won't be needed. Knowing him, he has gone into pure business mode and will remove all emotion from the conversation. He suggested that I forward an agenda!! I could tell from his tone that I will now be treated in the way that he treats people that he really despises. Or he'll turn on the charming, kind voice that he reserves for his female middle aged divorcing clients (and yes OW was a client when she went through her 1st divorce)
I know I have to drop all my expectations, but i guess I am looking for some acknowledgement from him that he also feels the magnitude and sadness of this situation after 30 years together.
Wrong I know, for me to feel that, but I do. I was starting to do well, but I'm not ready for this now.
