Anyone offer any advice about our meeting on Monday? I sense a shift in his attitude towards me and it is definitely worse. I think this is since I stopped contact and being 'concerned' about how he was doing. I have an awful feeling that it has backfired on me even though I am most definitely stronger than I was and can see that I will survive life without him.
I have to accept that he appears to have finally decided that he wants out of the marriage. He tells me that he has got over his meltdown and depression and feels in a happier and more settled place. So why the need to be nasty and still looking to lay blame at my door.
Do I remain detached at the meeting and just listen to what he proposes about formalising the S and ultimate D? Or do I make attempts to find out what is going on in his head to create this shift of attitude and try and have an honest conversation about how we interact in the future. I can't do that unless I understand why he is being like this.
I just have a feeling that there is still something getting in the way - he is bearing a grudge against me for something and we are not being totally honest yet which we will need to be if we are going to be civil.
Is it easier for him to hate me, even though he has decided that he is happier without me.
It was only 6 weeks ago that he told me that he had chosen me and the family and that he would always love me. This is now going too fast for me to process. I'd just started to GAL and find me.
Do I tell him that it is going to fast for me? Or do I just try some delaying tactics? Or do I just accept the writing on the wall and let things move forward as they are.
I feel like I'm backed into a corner and fighting for my life. Do I tell him?
ps yesterday when setting the meeting up and the resulting argument he twice said 'No chance at a reconciliation then' I am pretty sure it was said with sarcasm, or he was mocking my desire for reconciliation. I simply said that there always had been a chance of reconciliation.
