You should definitely get right of first refusal. My wife actually had that put into our parenting plan....and she is the one that has violated it on at least 5 occasions that I’m aware. She has even reached out to my side of the family without giving me the courtesy. I never ask her business, but if there’s an opportunity to spend time with my son I want to ensure I get that since I’m losing out on 50% of his childhood.
It has also played into my favor in the eyes of appearing as the most stable parent.
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
