Cherry. Getting on with a few bumps

[AndrewP]

Hi Cherry - yeah - they have their own warped view of reality don't they.

Is his mum still living with you? Is she doing OK? Is she the reason why he still stops by? Ideally you would have advance notice and a schedule for him to see the kids.

Do you both attend the same mosque? Can the imam help sort the realities of the religious divorce out? I know very little about your faith despite one of my best friends being Muslim.

To answer your question of trying again - think back to the marriage you had. The good and the bad. For those of us farther along in our journeys, many of us realize we're better off alone than where we were. If you were to try again you know full well that it would be HARD. Do both of you have the strength to face that? It sounds like he's selfish and rather lazy and that he probably doesn't.

(((Cherry)))