I have said no to the pumpkin patch thing. I didn't know I'd say no until I spoke to him today. He just sounded so darn normal about everything that I knew I couldn't face him today.
When I said I wasn't going to come, he practically hung up on me. He didn't even ask if I wanted to talk to the kids. Just went, OK, well I'm leaving at 2 so make sure you're here at 2 to take over. I replied that I wasn't going to base my time on when he left and if his mum called to let me know when she was ready for the kids to be picked up I would come and get them. He went ok, by and hung up. I couldn't even get a word in edge ways. He had his own expectations and got angry when I didn't fit in with them.
I don't know about you DejaVu, but this detachment thing feels very very wrong. I get the pursuit and distance dance. it makes sense. But what happens if both parties are taking the role of distancer ??
