I have not yet retained one, but I have seen a few to get a feel for my rights. Each time hurt. It is the right thing to do. I am not ready to retain yet. H is not pushing and neither am I. But yes, I expect it hurts like a mf. Every milestone on this road hurts like a mf.
Re your question about men and housework - It would have been nice if just once I came home and the dishwasher was emptied. That would have been sexy. Being a great dad is sexy.
In all seriousness. Marriage is a partnership and we all do our bit, whether that be bringing home the bread, or being the one to put that bread into the evening meal. For a long time I was the breadwinner (still am) and if he had wanted to be a SAHD I would have supported him.
