Things are progressing quickly towards D. We are scheduled before a mediator in about 10 days. We are trying desperately to settle without attorneys doing their thing on both sides delaying the inevitable and costing a ton of money and aggravation on both sides.
W is still determined to go. She has secured a place and it is just a matter of time. I am doing all I can to hold everything together. I am pleading with my W to just remain in the current home until our daughter is done with her 2-3 week day long therapy. I think it is better for her to not have the transition during this and also, since the times are very close, it is impossible for one parent to take care of both of the kids at drop off or at pick up for school. I guess "plead" would be the wrong word. I would just like her to see the reality of just this part and the short term sacrifice for our daughter. We are talking later this morning.
I want us to mediate, work this out, agree and file together. However if she moves during my D's therapy, I will have no choice but to file and ask for temporary full custody. NOT what I want to do. W have chose a place 30 minutes from our children's school. She will not be able to change them, but the commute is going to be quite an increase for them when she has them. Selfish planning on my W's part, but "not my problem". Just worried about the kids.
Funny. I've been sleeping better since she moved out of the bedroom into the spare room. She's complained every day about her sleep and pain and everything. I guess that it will be good that i won't have to hear it for too much longer.
Still working more and more on GAL. Honestly, just focused on my daughter's issues right now and doing my best to not let everything blow up with the W. Patience and perseverence are key. It has taken a long time, but the "rose colored glasses" through which I viewed my wife are beginning to clear. Having the things you never thought someone that close to you was capable of to just be exposed fully are both empowering and undeniably eye opening. To think that all along I was such a fool. No more.
I leave with this. My family is still in the same home. The clock is ticking and this will be over with in the next few weeks. I am ready to move on and move forward with my life and do all I can to support my kids and have a great time with them. I still love my wife. I believe that I always will. This doesn't mean she will control me, nor will I let her. I am too good a person to be treated the way I have been treated. No one deserved to be used this way.
Happy Friday everyone! Enjoy your day. Kiss your kids! If you have a significant other, hug them dearly!
M51 W44 T21 M18 D14 S11 BD date 9/17 W filed 02/18 W withdrew petition following week In house separation 03/18 In Limbo and DB'ing since 03/18 W is moving out by mid Nov 2018 A drawing up paperwork 11/18
