I hear all this and call her out, but heck at this point she knows I know everything.
What did you "call her out" on? And why?
Why is she still in the MBR? Hasn't she abandoned the MR by having an affair? Boot her out - "sorry sister just the way it is".
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I've asked friends to keep notes because this one can be made into a mini series.
Please no. It sounds like you're drumming up the drama. Don't involve people who don't need to be, it will only create more problems.
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I feel like I am being the security blanket by being there to listen, when I should be walking away and letting her deal on her own? More anxiety today!
Your validation and listening are great! If you are GAL like you should be, she'll feel the security blanket isn't there - b/c it isn't. The former security blanket is GAL and feeling great! See how that works? And you don't even have to address it and say "I won't be your security blanket, WW". You just show her. Actions > Words.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
