Ovr - yes, it $ucks that it has come to this point. There are no easy choices any more in life. All choices blow, but how you approach them is what matters. What is your mindset like? Unfortunately, life has been an a$$ to me for the majority of my life, so I know what it means to survive. I just choose not to 'survive' anymore, but actually thrive and not let life happen to me.
You only have control over yourself. W took a decision that impacted three other people who had no say in that decision. I am taking ownership, control, and accountability over my life and what W does or does not do has zero impact on it. One of the most important things I have learned throughout this journey to get to the other side is this - I am not waiting for her to do x, y, z... I am waiting for ME. The RECLAIMED ME! The quicker the LBS can truly internalize this fact, the journey becomes more simplified.
I sense some bitterness and anger in your response - I know it's not directed at me, but you're carrying it. I am not one who says get rid of your anger. I believe that you can use your anger towards the path of reclaiming yourself and then transform that into a continuous sense of drive. If you hang onto anger during that process and it doesn't start to transform, then you're just self-destructing at a slow pace. Best thing I read about anger - Anger is a poison one drinks themselves thinking that the other person will die.
I know life will throw more things at me, but unlike the past 'me', the reclaimed 'me' is well equipped. As David Goggins says - "you need to callus your mind; I am not training for a marathon, I am training for life so when I get a phone call in the middle of the night that my mom passed away, I don't fall apart. To grow, you have to suffer." Having gone through so much suffering in my life, I know how true that is. The only thing I didn't do is have the right mindset and understand that I had a say over how I could react to it. Now I do and it feels damn invincible.
