Yesterday I went out and had a great night with a friend of mine. I actually managed to keep my head clear of what is going on at "home" for a couple of hours - it was only after I arrived home, that I realized that (It made me happy).
That's great. Do more of this. It gets easier.
Originally Posted by Hurt213
She informed me, that she is going to heading out tonight (To see the OM) and she will be home later. I just said "Okay", and smiled, even though my entire insides were turning. I know she and I are no longer a couple, however we are living together, and have kids together. I feel really disrespected by the fact that she so openly goes out and get her needs attended to elsewhere. She will actually spend an entire hour running around the house, putting on perfume, choosing what clothes she looks good in, then walk around the living room, waiting for him to tell her she can now come over.
She is not thinking about you. She has an exciting new romance to keep her busy.
How much you can take is up to you. If you want to salvage the M then keeping standing. This is where detachment and 180 fits in. Do more of that. Your W will do as she will do without little thought of you, the home you've built, and dare I say it, the kids. Any threats or statements of ILU will fall on deaf ears. Detaching and 180 is really to protect you. At first it's a good way of keep the fears and negative thoughts at bay. But.as you've discovered above, the more you do, the more you will enjoy it, and even look forward to it. Also, protect your kids. GAL with them too.
