To be fair, I hear about a lot of marriages that end in divorce because the wife is a sahm and the husband loses his attraction for her in part because she is so focused on the house and kids that she loses sight of herself as a person.
As for your question, equalzr, I would not like to be married to someone who chased career success to the point where he was not an active partner in our home life.
And going back to the conversation about chores and who does more, you should definitely take emotional labor into account. That's often not taken into account when couple's divide responsibilities, and it can lead to a lot of resentment.
Thanks for chiming in Rose!
I didnt really think about it from that angle of the sahm becoming too focused on the family and not herself. My guess is that either the W or H can become less attracted to their spouse if the spouse doesnt focus on themselves enough(physically, career, etc).
Would you be okay being married to someone who doesnt reach his career potential because he is laser focused on his family and loses focus of his career(still works steady)?
Im not sure what emotional labor is??? I dont think ive ever heard that term.
Well, I have sacrificed some of my career potential to have the family life I want, so yes, I am more than ok being married to someone who also prioritizes family.
That said, if my husband had no ambition outside the home and family, I might find that less attractive. I've not been in that position, so I can't say for sure. Career ambition is not all or nothing. You can still set and achieve goals, even if your family is your priority.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
