Well if you don't care anything about the other woman's feelings, then maybe you should consider a professional. Otherwise, you run the risk of hurting a woman..…..and yes, EVEN if you make your intent very clear. Whenever you are physically intimate with another person, what guarantee do you have that they won't have feelings for you? None! Even if you find some woman who cares for nothing but getting laid. Both adults should be responsible for facing any consequences attached to that sexual encounter...….but too many adults aren't. One gets pregnant, or one gets a STD, or one falls in love, or one has a crazy ex...…..or one turns out of be some nut case like in "Fatal Attraction"! Michael Douglas's character was just wanting sexual pleasure, and he thought the woman was on the same page. He wasn't counting on things turning like they did.
Look, it's not that I can't empathize with you. I'm not trying to sound preachy. I just want you to consider the risks involved. There are some guys who will tell you to go for it, and that it will give you sexual confidence. I'm saying to be smart. And whether you pay for it or find some woman who wants sex with no strings attached...….for gosh sakes USE PROTECTION!!!
Sandi, I knew what I was going to get from you when I reached out to you. I wanted this, expected this, and got this.
This week and my reaction/outbursts are a case where I have my emotions taking over my logic. I have been able to keep it mostly in control the last three-ish months before I succumbed to it last weekend. I am a mess of emotion right now and very desperate and hopeless, especially when it comes to my future regarding sex and relationships. It's why I came here and asked that very question to all of you. I knew what the answer was going to be. And I knew I was not going to like it and get what amounts a (lovingly) hard slap to my face. I'm not hurt. I'm not offended. I harbor no ill feelings. I need to be the better man. For my sake and for D4's sake. And you are helping me be that man.
And in addition, I just want to say, and I mean this:
I love you all. I hope you know that you're saving my life by guiding me through what is without question the darkest journey in my life.
