The consensus is no matter how I try to justify my desire for a purely physical R, it's a bad idea. Even if I am upfront about it to her it sounds terrible, yes? I'm not doing it for W jealousy. I'm not doing it as a revenge affair. Just for sexual pleasure. No misunderstanding there.
Well if you don't care anything about the other woman's feelings, then maybe you should consider a professional. Otherwise, you run the risk of hurting a woman..…..and yes, EVEN if you make your intent very clear. Whenever you are physically intimate with another person, what guarantee do you have that they won't have feelings for you? None! Even if you find some woman who cares for nothing but getting laid. Both adults should be responsible for facing any consequences attached to that sexual encounter...….but too many adults aren't. One gets pregnant, or one gets a STD, or one falls in love, or one has a crazy ex...…..or one turns out of be some nut case like in "Fatal Attraction"! Michael Douglas's character was just wanting sexual pleasure, and he thought the woman was on the same page. He wasn't counting on things turning like they did.
Look, it's not that I can't empathize with you. I'm not trying to sound preachy. I just want you to consider the risks involved. There are some guys who will tell you to go for it, and that it will give you sexual confidence. I'm saying to be smart. And whether you pay for it or find some woman who wants sex with no strings attached...….for gosh sakes USE PROTECTION!!!
Last edited by sandi2; 10/25/1810:27 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
