You have a good memory. Ironically, I am an IC - for teens mostly. Lots of depressed and anxious teens out there... I will never be out of work. Sadly. I think that is where I struggle to detach from my H's "self-exploration" attempts. I know I am not his counsellor yet as his wife, I have sometimes fallen into the role. For sure he is at an earlier stage than me if for no other reason than our different upbringings. His family is very challenged when it comes to communication and his dad has no real moral compass that I have seen. Self-gratification has always been high on his priority list. I feel sad for my H that he is the role model he had growing up. My dad was ten times the father that my H's dad was. Still...my H is a smart guy...he could have made different choices. I am also aware that he has a heck of a lot to work out. It is just hard sometimes to step back and let him do it. He struggles with things that for me are a "no brainer" and works overtime to justify his behaviour and questionable decisions. If only he had worked that hard on being a husband and a father, we would not be in this mess. If only...
