Scared but determined

[Twofeet]

TF... I have listened to a couple of Jordan Peterson's podcasts... Reality and the Sacred is a great one... and may be the video you watched. I know he is controversial but I definitely identify with some of the things he says. The sacred is really what is being lost in society, I think. This idea that we should live to a higher moral standard even if we aren't necessarily "happy" doing it. I have always strived to live my life the "right way". My moral compass is extremely strong. My H, on the other hand, his changes direction all the time according to his "feelings" and his ability to justify going off course. I have a clear vision of who I am, what I stand for, how I want to live my life, what kind of example I want to set for my children. My H would have a hard time articulating what his moral code is. Maybe that he doesn't kill anyone?? Judging from his behaviour... the list of "do nots' is not long currently. Anyway... if you haven't heard this podcast, you should give it a listen. I think it's pretty on point.

I think Dr. JP political stuff is what he is controversially known for. His psychology and his ability to mix, religion(s) and myth are where he is spot on. I listen to him quite often during workouts. His recent book is on my to read list. The video I watched was from a university lecture in Toronto I think. I will go seek out this podcast thank you.

I too feel that I have a strong moral compass. I thought my W also had a strong moral compass, but it appears to not be the case. Its possible that she is who she is and I just projected myself onto her. I believe you said somewhere you were an IC for children. I could be wrong. Anyway my IC told told me as we age we develop mentally/emotionally and crisis such as D can propel us early to the next level or stage maturing us further along to that older wise person stage. However, people can freeze and be stuck as is likely for my W and your H. They could be at a much younger stage than you or I. Unfortunately, they may never get out of that stage or it takes a long time. They have to work it out, but they can seek help. We can lead by example for them, but we cannot do it for them. Hence we are all in the sitch we are in.