You got me thinking...my XH was always the high profile creative of the two of us. Although actually, some of the stuff he won awards for were ideas I came up with.
Anyhow, I put my creativity very much on hold while I was with him. Also because I sensed very early on that he didn't like being 'eclipsed' by me (not in the same field he was working in). And the way he carried on through our M, not doing his share as an adult, dealing with the adult life stuff, made his time seem more important than mine.
Well, I've been doing some excellent, very solid work, in my own creative business over this past year/year and a half - and making it known too. No point in doing all that work and staying quiet about it
I didn't realise quite how well I was doing at publicising my work until I bumped into some people I know vaguely in his industry and they commented on it, how incredible it was and how it's really taken off this past year, and is on such a high level. And there have been a good few people that have commented on it.
I still have a bit of an inferiority complex about the music side of things. It was what I originally studied, and I still do some playing occasionally (professionally), but XH was way more talented than me in this.
XMIL said that she was upset that he'd 'taken that away from me as well' when he left me, and then I left her band a while afterward that. But not until I'd played one last gig, turning up looking fabulous and as cool as a cucumber with it.
So maybe it's time to do some work on that side of things, and get myself some solo gigs.
