The 180 was the plan. For me, that means no relationship talks, no raised voices, etc. The only thing that I mentioned is that I had weekend plans with a friend for Friday, Sat and part of Sun. He said fine, he had plans for Sunday as well. I don't quite remember how we segued into "I don't to be married to you"--but that's where it ended. I asked him about the invite to a concert the day before, the text that said "relax--we are both committed to this marriage." etc, and he only says that he has changed his mind. He is baffling me, because while we both have made our share of mistakes, he was the one having an affair this summer--no matter what, I never strayed in our entire 38 years. Our children are furious (he managed to involve their children without their knowledge) and instead of acknowledging any responsibility it looks like he is going to walk away.
I agreed and ask if he was talking about separation or divorce. He responded only that he couldn't be married to me anymore. I asked what he would think of a roommate situation, at least for know, to which he readily agree (to my surprise--if he is so unhappy why would he want to be around me). Trying to figure out what to do--I could use financial advice from anyone here. He makes $20,000 more than me, drives my car (my name only), we owe $66,000 on the mortgage and have a boatload of student loans, almost all taken out to keep us afloat while he recovered from brain surgery.
If we are roommates in the same house we'll need to figure out things like meals, laundry, cleaning, but it would be cheaper because we are maxed and can't afford two places to live. Tips?[/quote]
