Equalzr 120mph w no seatbelts! Advise! pt IV

[Twofeet]

My 2 cents and experience is that it doesn't seem to be a alpha/beta thing vs expectation/appreciation thing. W would complain I wouldn't do my part or it wasn't 50/50. The problem was that my chores became expected and no longer apart of the 50/50 equation. I would tell my wife it could be 90/10 and I feel like it still wouldn't be good enough. Her side no matter the quantity was always weighed ridiculously heavy in her favor. The more I did the more it became expected.

To counter this I would work on us doing chores together, yardwork together, dishes together, cleaning together, laundry, etc. It has made things more even in her eyes this year. Not that it mattered because she is still Ding me.