it IS unnatural to be living the rest of your life with a partner other than your XH. But it is just as unnatural to be living the rest of your life with no partner at all.
Really? Did you really mean to say this? I see juju questioned it as am I. So I've been living an unnatural life the last 12 years? Wow. Can't say that I agree but who would want to agree they are living an unnatural life. Hope you'll clarify.
Juju used the word 'unnatural' in regards to how it feels to be involved with another person other than her child's father.
My main point was the unnatural part was that her marriage had ended. That however she played her cards from there things would feel horribly wrong at times.
This is important because if she is feeling like a new relationship is unnatural it might not be a 'red flag', it might just be that any path will feel a bit unnatural. Nothing will change the feeling of that loss, but no reason to attribute that to someone new. Breaking it off with new guy won't change the fact that her original marriage is over.
I don't know that I'd use the word unnatural for how I feel about divorce, I was using her verbiage. But in general I consider it a destructive path and the aftermath is lingering. Best I can tell you didn't pick this path for yourself nor did most of us. We have to do the best we can with the hand we are dealt.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
