I think everyone is trying to communicate two thing: the first is you filing for D with not stop the pain. The pain will only stop when you detach. This takes a long time maybe years. The second only file for D if you are ready. If you are actively posting on this forum I am guessing you are not ready.
As many have posted, there are not shortcuts. You have to move through the pain.
I promise you that it will get better just try to take it one day at a time.
