What drew me into joining this forum (a first for me) was the lighthouse and picnic stories. These perfectly described my mindset. I want(ed) to maintain the light / picnic whilst he works his way through whatever demons are haunting him. In reading the threads, I found a community of people who showed empathy, kindness, and yes, at times, a much needed kick in the butt.
I am still of the same mindset but I realize that it is a balance between being the light/picnic and not being a doormat. I guess that's where detaching and 180's come into play. I can maintain the picnic but be detached enough to not be bothered if he joins me.
I worry that the jealousy will lead to resentment. I will still carry on with my life though.
