Lots of LBSs start R talks due to what we call "the illusion of action". Most LBSs that are in limbo HATE IT. And they think any action is better than inaction. It isn't.
Why suddenly are you in such a rush to define boundaries and demand money? What do you think the outcome will be? If she can't use Netflix and internet does that help or hurt your sitch?
Also, try to throw emotion out the window and ask yourself, objectively, what the motivations behind your actions are. So many of us LBSs do things in the guise of setting boundaries, standing up for ourselves, etc, when really it is just manipulation attempts, or trying to get the WAS' attention.
So what is the rush?
I am not really in a rush, given how today is going for me I may not even actually discuss any of this with W for some time (at least not until I have a better understanding of how to do it). I am just trying to get a grasp on this stuff for my own good. I am really just trying to get feedback and appreciate all that is being provided. One thing that I can say with 100% honesty is my intentions here are genuinely not to manipulate W or get her attention. My whole drive behind all of this is to improve myself and only myself for the future. Saving my marriage if that happens is an afterthought.
