AnotherStander, Thank you for the clarification on "projection". While how I handled the conversation in not the worst way possible another lesson learned here was that I really need to just stick to fact that given the current sitch of our relationship what I am doing with my life, who I am hanging out with and where I am going through out the day is none of her business and really just need to express that and remain firm on that.
Yes, but I think it's fine to tell her you are not dating. I think that may have been mentioned in DR in fact. You're not supposed to willingly and freely offer up info on what your GAL entails, but if she specifically asks you if you are dating then it's fine to say "not at this time, I'm not ready for that" and let it go.
Originally Posted by Steve85
RH, please step back for a minute.
Lots of LBSs start R talks due to what we call "the illusion of action". Most LBSs that are in limbo HATE IT. And they think any action is better than inaction. It isn't.
Why suddenly are you in such a rush to define boundaries and demand money? What do you think the outcome will be? If she can't use Netflix and internet does that help or hurt your sitch?
Also, try to throw emotion out the window and ask yourself, objectively, what the motivations behind your actions are. So many of us LBSs do things in the guise of setting boundaries, standing up for ourselves, etc, when really it is just manipulation attempts, or trying to get the WAS' attention.
