R2C, I can see how I have wroded things that it may come across as me trying to control her. I am not trying to control her, I am trying to control myself. I am being taken advantage of, I am 100% responsible for that I need to not allow that. I have so much work to do to get to where I want with boundaries especially. Thanks for providing links, especially that second one on boundaries, I had not seen that one before.
