Hi FS. I have the same questions as you about flexibility around the kids being pursuit. My schedule with my H is the "minimum" amount of time I expect him to spend with them. He gets off work about two hours before me and sometimes spends that time with the kids on days that are not technically his. I had told him before that was okay. On one hand, it benefits the kids to see him as much as possible but on the other hand, it also doesn't give him time to miss "us". So it is a quandary and one I would love others to weigh in on.

Overall, I think you are doing really well and your description of how things have gone seem pretty hopeful to me. He seems to be getting over his anger towards you and anger only seems to come out when he is a bit jealous. I don't think that is a bad thing. smile Sounds to me like when you say "no" to an invitation and he gets passive aggressive, he is disappointed you aren't coming...has expectations maybe that he is not aware of. In time, I think, he will become more aware.