Steve, Thanks for the suggestions. Perhaps I am focusing on the wrong areas here and I clearly need to refine some of these items. The finances one I am having a hard time letting go of but you are 100% correct, ultimately there is nothing I can do to force her to pick up her share of the bills. For the most part I am only covering stuff that are necessities for me and the kids. The first thing I did was stop the shared cell phone plan and left her to get her own. The internet is another one, if she refuses to pay her share then I could simply change the wifi password and not provide access. Some of these are really petty small items but at the same time I am being taken advantage of (my fault 100%) and I need to put an end to some of that. That still leaves all the common major house expenses but I would have those on my own regardless so no sense worrying about them ultimately.
The dating thing took me by surprise but I think you nailed it on the head. It is either one or both of those scenarios and based on the amount of questions coming my way about what I am doing with my time I think option 2 is most likely where it all came from. I really dropped the ball on this one and gave her more info then I should have but it is another good lesson learned.
