Terapin - with my network of married folks that I know, most of the women also pitch in those 'man' chores. But, let's just say that what we both are seeing is on a spectrum of how men and women pitch in domestic chores. My point is not about the 'man' or 'woman' chores, it is about how you execute them and how you execute the rest of the stuff in your life. I think talking about household chores is a communication necessity, especially if the 'man' thinks what he does is not taken into account. There has to be a proper conversation and understanding between partners about what they are both doing in the household and what the division is.
I feel like there is this 'blaming' tone to what you're saying. If you're dissatisfied with how your W doesn't appreciate what you do, then frikkin' man up and talk about it and be assertive about how you're contributing. The NGS behavior is to just suppress this and avoid conflict. This is what my larger point is, you want respect from a woman - be an alpha in all areas of your life. Take ownership of it - I can't say this enough.
