I was doing some reading and found some interesting information. Im learning about respect and how it is earned by a man from a woman. That said, upon some of my reading, i came across articles that said when the man starts doing the majority of the housework, the woman loses respect for him. The basis was that the man should focus mainly on his career and achieving success there, and then help the woman with housework sometimes. Basically saying the woman admires and is attracted to a man who strives for success.
I think this is an excellent discussion point for a deep dive. With social norms changing, I find that most are generally confused about how to approach balancing household responsibilities with their W and still be an alpha male. This is just my take from my own personal experience and what I see and what I have learned from my own personal development.
It's still very true that women overall do a much larger share of household work and childcare responsibilities. That has been shifting with many men contributing a lot more than before. What I have seen, and what happened in my personal case, is that men go from one end of the spectrum to almost the other end - not helping too much, to almost doing everything. And what I have also seen is that this change in behavior happens a lot of times because men want to avoid conflict and please their partners.
That is all well and good BUT, if men don't have strong boundaries, don't take care of themselves, aren't confident and assertive, don't crush it at their work, aren't ambitious and driven, aren't taking the lead - then they are getting domesticated. That's what happened with me. Depression had a role to play, but I essentially became domesticated and a beta male.
So, I don't necessarily see the issue in doing household duties. The issue is men not being able to achieve a balance between that and being a badass. It is about how you are doing in other areas of life. Women want you to help out at home, and men absolutely should, but don't do everything.
I don't think it's reasonable to only help out sometimes. Many of my female friends are crushing it at work and then coming home to do everything - that's ridiculously unfair. Men who are not pitching in are not my definition of a modern man.
