Hey Eq. I'm curious about this too. I always thought I did my fair share around the house, but that was/is still one of her biggest complaints (that I didn't).

Since we now seem to be working towards saving the M, I've been doing much more of the housework. W says that she appreciates it, and it meets her main love language (acts of service). But I do worry about the respect aspect of it, especially long term

Married: 15yrs
Ages: Me 49, W 44
Kids: S12
BD: around 4/14