[quote No contact can't possibly work if he's the one doing no contact!][/quote]
Depends what you're judging it by. I stopped contacting my H and he has not once contacted me since nor shown any inclination that he is thinking of me or missing me. So, has my strategy failed. No, because I've stopped obsessing about him; what's he doing, why did he write that etc etc etc on replay in my head. It has made me stronger and able to focus on me. I also filled up my time with friends and activities so I didn't have time to notice that he wasn't contacting me.
Honestly, take the NC as a blessing as it means that it doesn't put you in a spin when you hear from him. Embrace the peace and quiet and freedom. First couple of days are hard, but it does get easier. Remove all expectation.
