I think I may have told this story before ... so apologies if you've already read it
Four years ago a close friend broke up with her BF of 11 years. His father had died the year before and he spent all his time at the hospital. After his father died he continued spending time away from home. He started ignoring my friend or outright being horrible to her. He was generally a [censored]. For some reason he suddenly took up mountain climbing and would go away for weekends / weeks at a time. Another friend of ours said she eventually called him on his behavior "you cannot treat X that way, she doesn't deserve it". His response "I know. I can't help it". That is how messed up he was. He knew he was treating her badly. Didn't know why but he couldn't help it. The guilt of treating her badly made him resent her even more.
Originally Posted by Grace21
I had a dream last night that H walked into the house, and said he needed an ambulance. I just looked at him, and he said he wasn't kidding, he really needed one. I woke up. It was very disturbing, and making me want to text him to ask him if he is o.k. When he first moved out, I was VERY fearful for his mental state and safety. He's said on many occasions he's no good to anyone, and a few times he might be better off dead (quite some time ago). He seemed o.k. on Sunday. Just a bit withdrawn. Perhaps this is just those old concerns revisiting me. I haven't contacted him yet today. But I am worried.
I think dreams are a way of our unconscious working its way through things. It is less about them and more about us. You are worried about him. You're allowed to be worried about him Don't act on it though. You are not his mum.
BTW - I went to my friends wedding a few weeks ago. She married the man she met on a dating app six months after breaking up with her ex. Her sister made her join the dating app after being sick of her moping around the house.
