Not struggling quite as much

[Jim1234]

Jim, it sounds like you said the right things when you had lunch with your wife. What did she say? Did she accept any responsibility for her actions or indicate whether she wants to try again?

That's crazy your wife is the one who no longer wants you, yet she wants the alimony even if she moves in with someone new? That's so unethical!! Maybe you should just let her go!

She seemed appreciative of my understanding of my failures, but didn't take responsibility for her actions. I suspect we will talk again. At this point, if we talk again, I'm not sure if I should say, "Hey, you are plenty responsible for part of our divorce, and if you aren't able or willing to admit that, and aren't remorseful and want to do better then I don't have much interest in reconciliation," or wait until she actually says she has interest in reconciliation before mentioning it to her. I don't want to sound presumptuous, but I also don't want her to feel like I waited for her to change her mind, and said, "Ha! Now I don't want to! Take that! Now I'M the one who decided to divorce!"

And that bit about alimony continuing even if she moves in with someone is crazy. The more I think about it, the more certain I am that it MUST be in any agreement.