Well equal, As I said above (you and I posted at the same time) it all stems from what she really means when she says "Let's just sit on this for awhile." That's the core issue here that needs clarification.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14