Starting over...for the final time (pain DB VI)

[burned]

I just know that other than not doing anything it's the only choice I have left.

So do nothing. It's the best choice you have.

And W made it clear that since we're separated, her R with OM is not considered an affair, but a "healthy, caring relationship."

I read in a book about recovering from D that essentially all "transitional relationships" end, as they should. They are healthy, they are caring, under certain conditions. But they are not REAL.

We all talk about taking the time, you know, a year or two, to become prepared for a new R. How would a transitional R that began before D be healthy? It's an A, plain and simple, and it's destined for failure.

Set that aside, don't let it eat at you. Time will sort this all out.