Of course you "surrendered". You pressured the hell out of her and right now it seems easier to quit to both of you. What was the point of all the pressure and pursuit the last few days? Did it do anything positive?
Even if you decided to divorce, the pressure is useless.
And I knew that last weekend. I knew when I called it was considered pursuit. I knew that the false signs I thought I perceived as positives was considered pursuit.
I do not know if there is an easier solution than divorcing. I just know that other than not doing anything it's the only choice I have left.
I am in a high emotional state right now. I am not going to make any decisions at this time right now.
I just need to get myself again to a better place. I am no longer focused on saving the marriage. I am focused on making myself happy. Whatever happens is going to happen. If W decides to give it another go, great. If I meet someone else and we hit it off, great.
I just don't want to be miserable anymore.
Where is the pressure in regards to divorce?
And W made it clear that since we're separated, her R with OM is not considered an affair, but a "healthy, caring relationship." I did not respond. I did not validate. I did not take the fight bait. I was stoic.
