I just reread the pursuit thread and wow thank you so much for recommending that, I really needed to read it again.
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Take a minute and think about this another way. When you detach and distance yourself from your spouse, notice how they start coming around, being nice, etc.? Well, he/she feels that you are not pursuing them. They want the chase, they want you to pursue them so that they can come back and slam dunk you all over again. It's a dance of madness. They may not even be aware of what they are doing, but once you snap up the niceness all over again, they will most definitely come back w/anger to distance themselves from you again for their safety and security. Does this sound familiar to you?
This paragraph is so true, it describes what happened to me a month ago. I definitely feel more prepared now after reading that.
