Grace - the thing I find scariest is that one day H will just be another person I know. Probably not going to happen soon as I still look at him and fancy the pants of him. He was always attractive. I guess I just forgot under the weight of building careers, paying mortgages and raising two children. I took him for granted and that's on me. I still think it [censored] that he gave up so easily though.
I was watching H at D12's football match on Sunday. When he can make it he volunteers be a linesman for half the game. I watched him safely from the other side of the field. Each time I glanced his way he was laughing or smiling. The fact that he was just enjoying himself doing something as simply as being a linesman for an U13s football match reminded me that a) I still fancy him and b) somewhere under that spite (which is less obvious now) is the man I love.
It will take me a log time to get to your place of lacking feelings.
Must repeat to myself, detach, detach detach ...
Originally Posted by Grace21
He's not wearing his wedding ring so he must not feel married.
I do know that my H took his off for a bit directly post BD. He went to the gym and came back without it on. I waited three days and then asked him why. He looked down, and responded with such sadness, "what's the point of wearing it". I told him we were still M. He put it back on.
When he moved out I took mine off and threw it at him.
We can't mind read, but perhaps your H took his off for the same reason my H did. He looked at it and thought "what's the point". It might not have anything to do with making themselves available to other women. if that's what they wanted, it is easy to slip a ring into your pocket when you're out and then put it back on when you come home. They might have taken it off because at that time it represents their sadness. I took mine off out of spite. He took his off too straight after. Neither of us have put it back on. I have regretted it ever since.
