Thank you OneArt, your post makes a lot of sense & I’m so grateful that you took the time to reply. I really admire your resolve & strength. I will try not to blame the OW in future, as hard as it is - that may have to be a “work in progress”!
You are right, I need to value me & live my life. I’ll try to remember your words & the poem next time I’m having a bad day.
Thank you for words of wisdom..
I wish you all the best.
Ruby
M 1986 ILYBINILWY Jan 2016 Found out about affair May 2016. H 57yrs. OW 23 yrs younger. Separated Sept 2016