Hi ItHurts, it seems you handled the situation well. You followed your ex-wife's signals and responded accordingly. You never expected this to happen after four years and you don't know what circumstances will be like in another four, eight, or twelve years so perhaps thinking long-term you can keep your options open. It sounds like your ex-wife said she's open to starting over but gave many signs that she wants to take it slow. Perhaps getting romantic too quickly was too much for her. It'll be interesting to hear your update after you speak with her again!
