I too hold out some hope that H and I can build a new M. But I won't do that at 'any cost' because time has shown me that I should expect more than what was on offer. ....................
You mention that he is deciding whether to stay in the marriage or not today. He is comfortable in the knowledge that you will accept whatever he says. Time to take a stand and set some boundaries.
I agree with this. In the aftermath last January of his last affair, I pursued, pursued, pursued, and let so much slide, made too many concessions in my desperation to not be a divorced woman. After I examined myself, started GAL and detached, I realize there is no way I will put up with that crap in the long term. I hated the person I was then. Starting to love the person I am becoming!
