MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART XII

[DonH]

Does it have to be all or nothing - at least right now? I totally hear you and can support that if ALL she wants is friends that you can't and won't do that. That's fine. But it's not either friends or full on reconciliation - is it? I mean, can't you just start to date her like you would anyone else? You'd not tell some other woman after the first date - look either we are working towards a real relationship here or we are done. You'd never do that. So why do it now? And to add to why NOT to do it now is she is scared. I'm sure that's the most of it. She is less afraid of trying with you than you think. She's mostly afraid of it failing or her getting hurt. Can't you have some level of patience with her? Clearly if ALL she can do is friends, then you have to set your boundries, but give her a bit of time to ease into this. She already took a step in that direction. She might be willing to continue exploring it without having to tell you "yes let's try to get back together again" Why don't you just tell her that you need the two of your to date - as in real dates.